Who we are and what we do: Brenda's role in Advocare
Brenda Dargan, Advocarer
My caring role began in 1956, when I was in my early teens. I cared for my Mother until she died in 2006. From 1973 I was her main carer and sole advocate for thirty years until she had a long spell in hospital. She returned home but sadly I found I was unable to manage and Mum had to go into residential care. I remember one time in particular during the early years of caring for my Mother when I felt I just couldn’t go on. It took all my courage to seek help.
Carers are generally referred to Advocare or contact us after trying everywhere else for help. They are usually at their wits' end trying to cope with the demands of their caregiving role or have serious concerns about the care their loved one is receiving. Brenda became a member of Advocare because she wanted to support fellow-carers and help to prevent them going through the same turmoil as she did. With her life-long experience as a carer Brenda could understand some of the difficulties in looking after someone with severe anxiety problems. As part of a small, dedicated team Brenda helped to develop Advocare's strategy for expanding the Caring for Carers service. She wanted Advocare to reach carers before they reach crisis point: to be their first port of call instead of their last resort.
If you have any concerns about your loved one or you would like to talk to someone in confidence about the demands of your caregiving role, please ring our Caring for Carers line (01202) 737592 and ask for Cathey.